One of the organizations I learned about during my unemployment was the Women’s Business Center located in Portsmouth, NH. I took a risk in November 2008 and called to ask if they offered any services for professional women that were not entrepreneurs. I was invited to come in for a complimentary one-hour counseling session with Lois Matheson who had recently started working there as a counselor.
Lois and I connected immediately and found ourselves laughing (and me sometimes crying) as I shared my walk to that point. She offered some constructive criticism of my resume, invited me to come back, and sent me off feeling a whole lot better about myself than I had for a long time. I joined WBC and tried to attend meetings as opportunity allowed. I felt a bit out of water as pursuing my own business was not really my passion at that time, but the support from the organization, including Nancy Boyle and new director Christine Davis, was absolutely outstanding!
So it was with sadness that I learned of their closing effective August 31, 2010. I don’t know the ins and outs of the nonprofit world and did read about some grants that might allow a new organization to be created, but that’s another story for another day.
Christine sent out what may be her last newsletter today sharing some of what she has learned these last weeks as her life goes through unexpected change. She’s a lot younger than I am, but the lessons she shares are appropriate for us all no matter the age. Her story can be my story. My story can be your story. We are here to learn from each other as we walk along the path.
With her permission, I share the newsletter with you:
As my final days are winding down here at the WBC I have finally had some time to reflect on all that has transpired over the past few weeks and since my arrival here less than 2 years ago. I won’t pretend that this hasn’t been difficult. To be totally honest it has been a lot tougher than I had imagined. So many emotions to deal with that include grappling with the fear of the unknown. Intellectually we all know that things will work out. We all face struggles and we get through them. It is during that period where you don’t know how it will work out that can really knock you on your butt.
Going through struggles can also be very insightful. We learn a lot about ourselves and others when the going gets tough. It is easy to lead when life is easy. It’s when life really takes a nose dive that true leaders shine. Being in charge and being a leader is not the same thing.
I have learned much from this experience as well as others and thought I would share a few tidbits of wisdom. Maybe 39 is too young to have wisdom so you can call it what you like.
· People aren’t stupid. They can see through insincerity and will remember how they were treated.
· Life is tough. Accept that success requires sacrifice and setbacks. Luck has nothing to do with it. Celebrate the moments of laughter, joy and glamour when you get them.
· Good people do come out on top. We hired people that we like, be that person. Be humble, ethical, honest and genuine. It matters.
· Surround yourself with people who have the strengths that complement your weaknesses.
· Ask for help if you need it. We all need it sometimes and it feels good to do something nice for another.
· Make career decisions based on who you are and what inspires you. Don’t live out someone else’s dreams or priorities.
· Be dependable.
· Appreciate everything you have. That includes financial well-being, health, a loving family, true friendships, and colleagues, bosses and customers that are great to work with.
· Doing the right thing isn’t always the easiest thing.
· Speak up when you are not happy with something or someone but do it with kindness.
· No one is entitled to anything. Work for it and appreciate it when you get it.
· Accept responsibility for your mistakes immediately.
· You may not be able to control what happens to you but you can control how you deal with it.
. If you believe in something invest in it.
. Give back to your community.
· Take the high road. All the cool people are there.
Executive Director, WBC